Welcome Encouragement for Today devotion friends. I am so excited you stopped by.
Today we will talk about taming our tongues. I would love to hear your stories, struggles and successes on this topic. Please leave a comment at the end of today’s post, and I will choose five names from the comments to win a copy of my e-book Bible Study, All Things Wise and Wonderful: Applying God’s Word in Everyday Life.
Now, let’s get to work on taming our tongues.
Words matter. Words have power. They can build up or tear down. They can encourage or discourage. They can pour forth love or spew forth hate.
Scripture teaches that the words we speak are a reflection of what fills our heart (James 3:8-12). So, if we want to tame our tongue, we must examine our hearts.
Our first step in this process is examining our speech.
Scripture reinforces this truth in Matthew 12:33-34 (NLT) :
A tree is identified by its fruit. If a tree is good, its fruit will be good. If a tree is bad, its fruit will be bad. For whatever is in your heart determines what you say.
Friend, our words and deeds reflect what fills the treasury of our hearts. What fills yours? Is it God’s Word or the world’s wisdom. Is it forgiveness or bitterness? Is it love or hate? Is it peace or anger? It is only when we have the Word of God inscribed on, dwelling in, and ruling over our hearts that our treasury will be full and our tongues will be tamed!!
Some of you have joined us from our Hidden Joy on-line study for a thirty day journey to go deeper still with God. I invite you as part of this journey to examine your speech. Some of you read the Encouragement for Today Devotion in which I invited you to keep a journal and examine your speech. Whichever way brought you here today, I hope you will take this first step in taming our tongue.
The second step to taming our tongue is disciplining our tongue.
Here are a few valuable tips I have learned through the years.
We must THINK before we speak. Ask yourself these questions.
1. Is it True?
2. Is it Helpful?
3. Is it Necessary?
4. Is it Kind?
I have learned that if I cannot answer “yes” to the majority, if not all, of these questions, I should hold my tongue.
God has also taught me to check my words before I allow them to leave my lips by asking myself another series of questions.
1. Is this something I really need to say?
2. What is my motive in saying it?
3. Will my words heal or hurt?
4. Will my words draw me closer to God or further away?
5. Will my words drive a wedge between the one to whom I am speaking or bring us closer together?
Of course, I don’t always follow these guidelines. Far from it. But what matters is that I know what I need to do. And committing it to prayer helps me actually do it!
God calls us to cultivate a habit of speaking life-giving words. Why? A cultivated heart produces a tamed tongue. A tamed tongue speaks words of love, mercy, grace, and encouragement. And words of love, mercy, and grace enable us to speak truth in love the times we have to speak hard truths.
I love this verse from Psalm 141:3,
Set a guard over my mouth, O Lord; keep watch over the door of my lips.
This is a great prayer to pray…to help us check our words before we speak them.
God is for us, my friend! He wants us to speak life-giving words. He wants our words to edify. If you commit taming your tongue to Him, you will succeed. My study, All Things Wise and Wonderful, grew out of my struggle with my teenage daughter. God taught me some powerful lessons that totally transformed my relationship with her. Be encouraged, and remember, with God ALL things are possible!! We can do ALL things through Christ who strengthens us.
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