July 1, 2014

Join us for “Am I Messing Up My Kids” w/ Giveaway!

Calling Moms of all ages, stages, and seasons of life!

I have something so exciting to share with you from our Proverbs 31 Online Bible studies team.


Hmmmmm … have you ever wondered, “Am I Messing Up My Kids?”  I don’t know about you, but I’ve asked myself that question…often. And now that one of mine is in college, I find myself saying, “Lord, I have messed up my kids … now what?”  Haha, just kidding (well maybe).

We’ve never done this before and we thought it was about time: for the first time ever, Proverbs 31 Ministries is hosting a summer study just for moms and like-minded women who care about children.

Beginning July 13, we’ll be reading Am I Messing Up My Kids? … and Other Questions Every Mom Asks by Lysa TerKeurst.

Our 6-week study of Am I Messing Up My Kids? will equip you to:

•   Overcome the weight of mom-guilt and learn how to forgive yourself for honest mistakes.
•   Stop comparing yourself to “perfect” moms by turning to God for perspective, guidance and permission to be the mom He’s created you to be.
•   Anchor your identity to who you are in Christ instead of chaining your worth as a mom to your kids’ fragile choices

This online study is going to be all about you, Mom. We recognize that the summer can be a busy, hectic time for us all. That’s why we’ll be focusing on an easy-going pace with more reading, discussion and quiet time and fewer homework assignments. We want you to get the most out of your summer and this book!

So moms and friends-of-moms, you’re invited to join us!   It’s time for us moms to unite and offer each other support and encouragement as we come together and read a book just for us.  We need less of the world’s perspective for how we are raising kids and more of God’s. We will get that and more during this short summer study.

Consider this your personal invitation! Join Nicki Koziarz, Kristy Aiken, and Melissa Taylor as we travel together and read Lysa TerKeurst’s Am I Messing Up My Kids? 
Now if you are taking the summer off, not to worry! We also have a dynamic brand new study, The Best Yes, also by Lysa TerKeurst, beginning in September for everyone.  (Details on that are coming soon.)

One last thing, about where you order books for your Bible studies?  Did you know when you order from Proverbs 31 Ministries not only do you receive a book, but you also are investing in eternity? Your purchase helps support the ministry and enables us to offer free online devotions, online Bible studies, and much more. You partner with us when you purchase a resource from our bookstore. Plus … the first 1,500 people who order Am I Messing Up My Kids? from Proverbs 31 Ministries will received an autographed copy by the author, Lysa TerKeurst!

We have two weeks until we begin! I hope you’ll consider joining us! Click HERE to join the fun!

And leave a message here and let me know if you’ll be joining us and why by Thursday at midnight for a chance to win a signed copy! I’ll announce the winner Friday morning right here.

Have a blessed, safe, and happy summer!

June 4, 2014

An Invitation to Change Your Summer!

I hear beeping from the other side of the bed. Loud. Unrelenting. 5:30 already? I’m so tired. Just a few more minutes. I hit the snooze button. 

Again beeping. Loud. Unrelenting. 5:40. Just a few more minutes. I hit the snooze button. 

Again beeping. Loud. Unrelenting. 5:50. Shoot. Why did I do this? I promised to wake up early. To spend time with You, Lord. I’m so sorry. Why didn’t I just get up? Now I’m late.  My heart aches. Again, I disappoint You, Lord. I’m so sorry. I’ll do it later. I promise.

“You won’t…not today. You’ve got so much on that “to do” list waiting for you.”

Stop it!! Yes, I will. I can start tomorrow. Tomorrow I’ll do it.  

Why am I such a failure at this spending time with God thing right now? Why can’t I just get up the first time the alarm goes off?

Seasons of my life go like this. I have the best of intentions to begin my day with God. But instead, I don’t. It’s a tired season. A weary season.

Discouragement fills my heart. Recently, in the midst of one of these seasons, God answered my heart’s cry, My child, you are not a failure. You are tired and thirsty. Get out of “the routine.” Let’s begin a new season together. And just so you know, time with Me doesn’t have to fit a mold. Be creative. 

Be creative…not really one of my gifts!

Then I remembered a prayer of Moses. I searched the key words on Biblegateway and  found it in Exodus 33:18:

Now show me your glory. 

Moses asked God to show him His glory…to show Moses more of Him than he had ever seen before. Moses asked God outright for a FRESH vision of His glory…of His abiding presence.

Oh, that is what I want right now! What about you?

Let’s get out of our routine. Will you join me for a new season with the Lord this summer? Let’s pray together to experience a physical manifestation of God’s presence…to experience His Shechinah Glory.

What is God’s Shechinah Glory? It’s when the INVISIBLE God becomes VISIBLE, when He LOCALIZES His presence and MANIFESTS Himself in our midst.

Let’s be creative today.

Let’s not feel tied to a daily quiet time in this season INSTEAD let’s invite God to show us in real and concrete ways the reality of His Love and Presence in our lives in a fresh way!

Ways we can do this…

Tune your heart to worship music

A few weeks ago, I started a new routine. Rather than my country playlist on Pandora, I began listening to the Passion Worship playlist. Through song lyrics, God touched deep places in my heart that needed a fresh touch from Him. Below is a beautiful song, “Oceans,” to begin your time. Find a comfortable place to sit, close your eyes, listen and invite God to invade every part of you with the POWER of His presence.


Read through a book of the Bible

If it’s been a while since you’ve been in the Word, choose a book, open and read…without an agenda…without a study guide…without a notebook…without a teacher. Just sit and read as little or as much as you want. No strict schedule. Simply listen for God to speak to you…to minister to you through His Word.

Read a book from a favorite author

A few months ago, I read Donna Gaines‘ (a fellow InScribed Studies author) book, Leaving Ordinary. Donna took me to the Tabernacle and gave me a fresh vision of prayer grounded in the history of God’s people…the temple…the priesthood…the Great High Priest Jesus. Such a gift to read how God spoke to Donna when she invited God to speak into her ordinary life in extraordinary ways!

Memorize a passage of Scripture

Choose a passage of Scripture or some favorite verses and commit them to memory. Be creative in how you memorize.  It’s such a blessing to hide God’s Word in your heart. Check out these creative ways of memorizing “So That” verses from my Minnesota Living So That friends (Jenn Citrowske Elness and Tera Cory Elness).






Create a prayer journal

Pray creatively. Text verses to friends throughout the week. E-mail prayers to friends rather than just pray for them. Create a prayer journal and journal what God lays on your heart.


And whatever you choose, EXPECT God to be a part and INVITE Him to show up IN ALL HIS GLORY!

Heavenly Father, forgive us for not inviting You into our lives each and every day. I ask that  for each one of us inviting You  to show us Your Shechinah Glory, You show up in very personal ways, manifest Yourself in ways that each of us will KNOW that it is You. In big and small ways show Yourself. Give us a word, a touch, a whisper, anything we need to experience You in a fresh way. Thank You for Your promise that when we seek You with all our hearts, we will find You. Today we claim that promise and invite You to show up BIG. Thank You that You will do great and mighty works in our midst. Show us Your glory, Lord, show us Your glory! I ask all this in Jesus’ powerful Name. AMEN

Share your invitation with us! Let us know how YOU are going to invite God’s Shechinah Glory into your summer.


May 23, 2014

Moms and Daughters: Tips to Protect Yourself from Being a Victim

How I wish someone had shared with me what I’m about to share with you. If they had, perhaps the events of June 7, 1987 would have ended very differently.

Today I’m continuing the post I began on Monday, sharing my journey of healing from sexual assault…from victim to victor! To read the post, click here. For a free chapter from my book, Hidden Joy in a Dark Corner, sharing my story, click here.

A few years ago, Oprah Radio invited me to Chicago to share my story and the facts, statistics and practical lessons I learned from my experience. I’m sharing that same information with you today. I write this NOT to instill fear but to inform and educate. I invite you to read through to the end…inform and educate yourself… and share it with your friends. Today we’ll take about…

  • The facts
  • The effects
  • Ways to prevent becoming a victim
  • What to do if it happens to you

The Facts

  • Did you know that 1 out of 4 college women are sexually assaulted every year?
  • Did you know that 1 out of 6 women some time during their lifetime will be the victim of sexual assault?
  • Did you know that approximately 60 percent of sexual assaults go unreported every year? And 97 percent of rapists will never spend a day in jail.

The Effects

Victims of sexual assault are:

  • 3 times more likely to suffer from depression.
  • 6 times more likely to suffer from post-traumatic stress disorder.
  • 13 times more likely to abuse alcohol.
  • 26 times more likely to abuse drugs.
  • 4 times more likely to contemplate suicide.

(Statistics taken from RAINN )

For help, contact 1-800-656-HOPE

Ways to Prevent Becoming a Victim

Monday I shared spiritual lessons I’ve learned through my journey of healing. But I have also gained practical wisdom and want to pass it on to you to keep you S.A.F.E and protect you and those you love from being a victim.

Sexual assault Is A Crime Of Opportunity!!! What do I mean by that? Rarely is a woman assaulted by a stalker. A perpetrator selects his victim because, by her unintentional actions, she has made herself an easy target. By following a few simple steps, you can avoid being an easy target. I learned some of these first hand. Please share them with all the women you know!

S - Avoid Compromising Situations

When you go out….

  • never leave your drink unattended (alcoholic and non-alcoholic)
  • never accept a drink from a stranger and accept drinks only when you see the bartender pour it and hand it directly to you
  • never leave the keys to your home with anyone (valet, service station, car wash)
  • never be alone with someone you do not know
  • always be sure a friend or family member knows who you are with and where you are going

A - Be Aware of Your Surroundings

  • know where you are at all times
  • know what is going on around you
  • know who is around you
  • never have conversations within range of a stranger that reveal you will be home alone, closing a business alone, traveling alone, etc.

F - Go With Your Feelings

  • if your intuition tells you something is not right, pay attention and respond (chills down your spine, hair stands on end)
  • flee if you feel uneasy or uncomfortable
  • call 911 if you sense danger
  • never ignore your feelings because they may save your life

E - Don’t Be An Easy Target

  • secure your home and car by locking your doors and windows at ALL times 
  • never walk alone at night ANYWHERE
  • never open your door to a stranger and ALWAYS ask for identification when expecting workmen

Some of these sound simple and obvious. But I violated three of these prevention steps. I had a conversation outside at the pool which unintentionally announced to everyone around me that I would be home alone that afternoon. We left our front door unlocked, which allowed the rapist easy access. I had a “strange” sensation when I walked in the apartment and saw our front door locked because we usually left it unlocked for each other. But I ignored that “feeling” and walked up the stairs right into the arms of an armed, masked man.

THE KEY TO AVOID BEING  A VICTIM IS AWARENESS. Please read these, learn them, and follow them! Pass them on to your friends. You may very well save a life!

What to Do If It Happens to You

  • Immediately call 911 no matter what your attacker threatens
  • Do not change your clothes
  • Do not shower
  • Do not move or remove any item from the location of the attack
  • Write down anything you can remember immediately (race, age, height, weight, hair color, hair length, eye color, distinguishing marks, facial hair, clothes, weapon, odors
  • Go to the emergency room

This is a message I’ve shared on many college campuses and radio and television interviews. I invite you to share what you have learned today with those in your sphere of influence…women you care about…it could save a life! If you do, please leave a comment and let me know who you shared it with and why. Just as I did Monday, I will do a giveaway. But today I will choose two comments to win a copy of my new book, Living So That: Making Faith-Filled Choices in the Midst of a Messy Life.

**The winners of Hidden Joy from the Monday post are Kat who posted on May 19th at 1:53 pm and JJWD who posted on May 19 at 4:55 pm. Please contact me via e-mail at deuteronomysix@aol.com by next Friday with your full name and mailing address.**