April 24, 2018

When Love Hurts (Guest Post)

Today, I’ve invited my friend Sharon Jaynes to share some encouragement from her new book, Enough: Silencing the Lies that Steal Your Confidence. Sharon has the gift of storytelling. I absolutely love her books because she has the most amazing way of bringing biblical truths alive in ways that make them easier to understand. Whether she’s making me laugh or bringing me to tears, I learn much from Sharon. This devotional is one of my favorites because through her story she provides a practical process to follow when the evil one comes in hard and fast to steal, kill and destroy. Be sure to read through to the end, Sharon has a beautiful giveaway below that you won’t want to miss!


Enough: Silencing the Lies that Steal Your Confidence by Sharon Jaynes.

“Mommy, Mommy,” Steven cried. “Don’t let them hurt me!”

My son, Steven, was about 3 years old when he contracted a severe case of the flu. His slumped body snuggled listlessly like an old, worn rag doll.

When I carried him into the medical clinic, the doctor quickly diagnosed dehydration and immediately sent us to the hospital.

My heart ripped apart as the nurses strapped my little boy onto a table and began placing IVs in his tiny arms.

“Mommy, Mommy,” Steven cried. “Make them stop! They’re hurting me.”

“No, honey,” I tried to assure him. “They’re going to make you all better.”

“Mommy, help me!”

Steven cried. I cried. The nurses cried.

I could only imagine what was going through Steven’s little mind. Why are these people hurting me? Why doesn’t Mommy make them stop? She must not love me. She’s not protecting me. If she loved me she wouldn’t let them do this. She must not care about me.

Standing in the corner watching my little boy cry, I wondered if that’s how God feels when I’m going through a painful situation that’s for my ultimate good. I cried out, “God, why are You letting this happen? Don’t You love me? Don’t You care about what’s happening to me? Why don’t You make it stop?

It was a picture I wouldn’t soon forget.

I envisioned God speaking to me in my pain. You don’t understand the reason for the pain. You might think I’ve deserted you, but I will never leave you. You might think I don’t love you, but I love you to the height of heaven and the depth of the sea. You might think I don’t care about what’s happening to you, but I am orchestrating your days and care about every hair on your head. My ways are higher than your ways, and My thoughts are higher than your thoughts. Yes, I do care about you and what’s happening to you. In the end, this will make you better.

C.S. Lewis, who watched his beloved wife die of cancer, put it this way: “God whispers to us in our pleasures, speaks in our conscience, but shouts in our pains: It is His megaphone to rouse a deaf world.”

Because God loves us, He desires our conformity more than our comfort. Allowing troubles, trials and pain is one way our loving God makes that so. No one likes getting stuck with a sharp needle, but if the needle brings healing or prevents greater suffering, it’s just what we need. Faith in Jesus Christ does not guarantee an easy life but a perfect eternity.

I don’t know what difficulties you’re facing today. It could be the toughest time of your life. But I do know that during tough times, the devil will tell you (falsely) God doesn’t love you, doesn’t care about you or isn’t doing anything to help you. Don’t listen to him. Satan is a liar—an opportunist who looks for vulnerable times to convince you to question God’s power, provision and promises.

Here’s my process when those lies wiggle their way into my thoughts:

Realize the enemy’s true identity: He’s the father of lies.

Recognize the lie: God doesn’t love me.

Reject the lie!

Replace the lie with truth: “For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord” (Romans 8:38-39).

When we feel like a little kid, thinking our heavenly Father’s standing in the corner not doing anything, we can know He is. Jesus said, “My Father is always at his work to this very day, and I too am working” (John 5:17b, NIV).

No matter what you’re facing today, remember this:

God loves you.
God is good.
God wants what’s best for you.
God is always at work on your behalf.
You can trust Him.

And that’s the truth.

Heavenly Father, sometimes life is just hard. I’ll be honest, sometimes I feel like You’re standing in the corner watching and not working. However, I know deep down that’s not true. Thank You for never leaving nor forsaking me. You always work for my good even when I can’t see it. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

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Share this post with 5 or more people, then leave a comment that says, “I did it!” We will randomly pick one comment to win an Enough bracelet made by the ladies of Fashion and Compassion. U.S. addresses only please. Winner will be announced on the blog on Monday, April 30.

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About the book

Do the voices in your head tell you that you are not good enough, smart enough, pretty enough, or just not enough, period?  If so, it’s time to stop listening to the lies that sabotage your confidence and start embracing the truth of your true identity in Christ. Order Enough: Silencing the Lies that Steal Your Confidence and receive 24 printable Truth cards FREE. Click here for details.

Enough: Silencing the Lies that Steal Your Confidence by Sharon Jaynes.

Sharon Jaynes is an international speaker and best-selling author of 21 books. For those who know her best, she is a simple southern girl who loves sweet tea, warm beaches, and helping women live fully and free as a child of God and co-heir with Christ.




This post previously appeared as a Proverbs 31 Ministries devotion.


  1. Nichole Ridner says

    I did it! I shared this devotional with several friends. After I cried. I’m in a rough place with my husband having been unemployed for over a year and lately I’ve found it very difficult to have hope that God is working it out even though I know that all I need to do is trust. Thank you for the precious example of how I can cry out even when I don’t understand.

    • Thank you for sharing this devotion with you friends. And, I’m so thankful the Lord brought you here to speak into your rough place with your husband. Nicole, I pray that as you cry out to your Abba Father, you will hear His voice and sense His comfort and peace. He promises that He will never leave you or forsake you. I pray for provision during this time in ways that will amaze you!



  2. Suzanne Calaway says

    I did it! Just what I needed to hear today. Thanks for the encouraging words.

    • Suzanne, I’m so thankful that God met you here today!!! He is a good Father who hears the cry of our hearts and speaks His promises and hope to encourage and equip us.



  3. I did it. Thank you. This truly is one of the most difficult times in my life. I love the analogy, the needles are painful, but they are a necessary way to rehydrate the soul we have neglected.

    • Evenlyn, I feel the very same way! That analogy is perfect and ministered to my heart. Thank you for sharing, and I’m thankful the Lord brought you here to minister to you in this hard place. I pray that you will experience in very real ways how wide and high and deep and long is Your Abba Father’s love for you!!!



  4. I did it! I really needed this today and needed to be reminded of this!

  5. I did it! These words made me feel so privileged to be in the midst of trials and suffering. He is working in a way I cannot see or understand. His love will protect and provide me with comfort, peace and joy. I know that the verses to refute Satan’s lies will be my shield and bring victory in my life. Thank you for such wonderful and comforting words.

    • Kathy, it blesses me to see how faithful and courageous you are in the midst of your trial … claiming His promises and trusting His love. A wonderful example of us!! I’m thankful Sharon’s words today comforted you and affirmed the truths you already know.

      Thank you for sharing today’s post!


  6. I did it! What a great message! Thank you Sharon, you are always a blessing as you write your encouraging words for us!

  7. Alana Morgan says

    I did it!!!

    Beautiful message that reached right into my heart of hearts!

    Thank you Sharon Jaynes & Wendy Blight for sharing her with us!!!

    • Alana, so thankful Sharon’s message touched your heart!! Answered prayer for both us. Thank you for stopping by and for sharing her message with your friends.


  8. I did it! Lovely bracelet.

  9. Joyce Schultz says

    Great message! Bought your book and looking forward to reading it!! Trials and sufferings, I have my share…
    Psalm 30:2 “O LORD, my God, I called to you for help and you healed me.” It’s easy to let things come into my thoughts, but if I just keep my eyes on Him and put my trust in Jesus–I couldn’t be in better hands!! He’s been Faithful to me!!
    I did it! Shared with several of my friends.
    Blessings to you both Sharon Jaynes and Wendy Blight!! <3

    • Joyce, so good to see your name here today. Thank you for sharing her message and for sharing Psalm 3:2 with us. What a beautiful verse and so filled with hope!!

      Blessings to you,


    • Congrats, Joyce, you won the giveaway! Please see the email from our team and reply with your U.S. mailing address. Thanks so much!
      Kim Stewart
      Wendy Blight Ministry Team

  10. I did it! I share it with 5 friends also in my timeline on facebook. This is powerful story. How great is God’s love!

    • Thank you for sharing today’s post with 5 of your friends!! I’m thankful it touched your heart! Yes, we are blessed to have a Father who loves us with an everlasting, unfailing, lavish love!



  11. I Did It! I share it with 5 of my friends and also in my timeline on facebook. This is a powerful story! How great is God’s love!

  12. I did it! I shared it with 5 of my friend and also in my timeline. This is a powerful story. How great is God’s Love!

  13. I shared this. Love this message. I needed this.

    • Nina, I means so much to know God led you here today to speak to your heart. He promises that when we seek Him, we will find Him. It’s a true blessing to be His vessel to encourage you. 🙂

      And thank you for sharing Sharon’s message.



  14. Thank you Sharon and Wendy. What a powerful story and a solid foundation of love that we can all relate to. Thank you for empowering us to see the spiritual setting in our own stories. I cling to these truths! With all my love and gratitude for you both… 💜

    • Thank you, sweet Noelle!! I miss you and miss your writings. Have you been writing for Encouragement Cafe lately? YOU are one of the best I know at seeing the spiritual setting in our own stories. So often, you have opened my eyes to my own.

      Love you,


  15. Darlene Dunlap says

    I did it. This is great. Really spoke to me. Wow. Have to get the book.

  16. Darlene, thank you for sharing and for stopping by!!



  17. Catherine Napoleon says

    I love the Lord with all my being. I went through a period of sickness…. But in the mist of It all, I trusted God to bing me out of it. when through it in stages, God was preparing me for a better me. the needle in the flesh was painful but it was working out for my God.

    I wouldn’t give up. Because I trust God by praying and crying, holding on to His promises.

    I am living out my purpose ministering to the broken, assuring them of God turning around the bad for our good.
    No matter what we see. Our father has the final say…..

  18. Super geschrieben.Vielen Dank.

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