July 1, 2014

Join us for “Am I Messing Up My Kids” w/ Giveaway!

Calling Moms of all ages, stages, and seasons of life!

I have something so exciting to share with you from our Proverbs 31 Online Bible studies team.

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Hmmmmm … have you ever wondered, “Am I Messing Up My Kids?”  I don’t know about you, but I’ve asked myself that question…often. And now that one of mine is in college, I find myself saying, “Lord, I have messed up my kids … now what?”  Haha, just kidding (well maybe).

We’ve never done this before and we thought it was about time: for the first time ever, Proverbs 31 Ministries is hosting a summer study just for moms and like-minded women who care about children.

Beginning July 13, we’ll be reading Am I Messing Up My Kids? … and Other Questions Every Mom Asks by Lysa TerKeurst.

Our 6-week study of Am I Messing Up My Kids? will equip you to:

•   Overcome the weight of mom-guilt and learn how to forgive yourself for honest mistakes.
•   Stop comparing yourself to “perfect” moms by turning to God for perspective, guidance and permission to be the mom He’s created you to be.
•   Anchor your identity to who you are in Christ instead of chaining your worth as a mom to your kids’ fragile choices

This online study is going to be all about you, Mom. We recognize that the summer can be a busy, hectic time for us all. That’s why we’ll be focusing on an easy-going pace with more reading, discussion and quiet time and fewer homework assignments. We want you to get the most out of your summer and this book!

So moms and friends-of-moms, you’re invited to join us!   It’s time for us moms to unite and offer each other support and encouragement as we come together and read a book just for us.  We need less of the world’s perspective for how we are raising kids and more of God’s. We will get that and more during this short summer study.

Consider this your personal invitation! Join Nicki Koziarz, Kristy Aiken, and Melissa Taylor as we travel together and read Lysa TerKeurst’s Am I Messing Up My Kids? 
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Now if you are taking the summer off, not to worry! We also have a dynamic brand new study, The Best Yes, also by Lysa TerKeurst, beginning in September for everyone.  (Details on that are coming soon.)

One last thing, about where you order books for your Bible studies?  Did you know when you order from Proverbs 31 Ministries not only do you receive a book, but you also are investing in eternity? Your purchase helps support the ministry and enables us to offer free online devotions, online Bible studies, and much more. You partner with us when you purchase a resource from our bookstore. Plus … the first 1,500 people who order Am I Messing Up My Kids? from Proverbs 31 Ministries will received an autographed copy by the author, Lysa TerKeurst!

We have two weeks until we begin! I hope you’ll consider joining us! Click HERE to join the fun!

And leave a message here and let me know if you’ll be joining us and why by Thursday at midnight for a chance to win a signed copy! I’ll announce the winner Friday morning right here.

Have a blessed, safe, and happy summer!
Blessings,

June 16, 2014

Praying for our Husbands

***The winners of Rob Teigen’s gift packs are listed at the bottom of today’s post***

Welcome to all my Encouragement for Today friends!! I’m excited you stopped by today.

A few weeks ago, my husband and I enjoyed a lovely dinner with a young couple soon to be married. They asked for any advice we had to share. After 27 years, surely we had some wisdom!

As my husband shared his advice, which was hilarious by the way, my mind raced. Mine wouldn’t be clever or funny like his. I wanted my words to encourage, but I also wanted to be realistic. Marriage is wonderful, but it’s also hard…very hard. Especially those first few years.

So I spoke honestly. The most spoken word from my lips was “prayer.” But, that’s not how it was early in my marriage. I confessed that I rarely prayed for anything, let alone my marriage. As the years passed, I prayed a bit more. But they were self-centered prayers asking God to change my husband, to give me patience with his annoying habits, and to curb my anger when he ignored my requests and hurt my feelings. But I never really prayed FOR him or for our marriage.

Twenty-seven years later, I cling to prayer. I pray for my husband, my marriage, my children and our family. It’s a staple in my prayer time. It’s often not long and involved, but it is continual. Yes, I set aside specific prayer time for my family, but I also pray throughout the day as the Lord brings each to mind.

Here are some wise words of wisdom from my dear friend and Proverbs 31 sister, Lysa TerKeurst:

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Praying for our husbands is the greatest gift we can give them.

Praying with our husbands is even better! Praying together intimately knits our hearts together in a way nothing else can. It creates an impenetrable shield about our hearts and our home that NOTHING can pass…especially the evil one.

Praying for my husband comes easy for me. But I’m not so comfortable praying with my husband. It’s a “me” thing. Anyone else relate? I pray with women all the time…friends, Bible study leaders, speaking event coordinators and leadership teams. But I struggle praying with my husband. Excuses abound. Life is busy. It’s hard to carve out time. I feel a bit uncomfortable. I’ve learned, these are Satan’s tactics. He doesn’t want us to pray together because he knows prayer STRENGTHENS marriages and DEFEATS his schemes.

Sweet friends, the only way to pray is TO DO IT!! To intentionally take a step and pray.

A few days after our dinner with this young couple, I sat down at my computer and wrote a prayer for them. I haven’t given it to them yet, but I thought I would share a portion of it with you.

Heavenly Father, we thank You and praise You that every good and perfect gift is from You. You alone are the King of Kings and Lord of Lords. You alone are our Redeemer and Savior. You alone are the Lord of Heaven and Earth, Sovereign over ALL things, including our marriage.    

God, I thank You that Your Word says You know the plans You have for our marriage and our family, plans to prosper and not to harm, plans to give us a hope and a future. What a precious gift  to know that You planned our union before time began! This is Your good, pleasing and perfect will.

Lord, Your Word promises that when we seek You with all our hearts, we will find You. Father, we pray that You will remind us to daily come before You, seeking wisdom about our marriage and our family. And thank You for Your promise that You will generously pour out that wisdom. And thank You, Lord, that there is no good thing that You will withhold from us.

Father, You are El Roi, the God who sees all. As husband and wife, help us honor You each and every day.  Enable us to love each other with Your sacrificial love…to lay aside any hurt, anger, bitterness, resentment, and any other issue, including our wills, that would prevent You from being at work in and through our marriage.

Release the power of Your Word and Your Spirit into our marriage and our home. We are asking You to do as You promise—to do immeasurably more than we could ever ask or imagine.

We ask that from Your glorious storehouses of riches You will make our marriage beautiful. We boldly come to Your throne and ask that our marriage be rooted and established in Your deep and abiding love, the love that surpasses all knowledge. Help us to live lives worthy and live out a marriage worthy of You, Lord. Give us great endurance and patience. Fill us with Your joy so that on the hard days, we will look beyond our circumstances and remember the Promises made in You. Keep our eyes on You and not on our faults and difficult circumstances. Help us to be living sacrifices to You, giving up our own desires to accomplish Your greater purposes for our marriage and our family.

Father, humble our hearts to recognize when we are wrong. Make our hearts tender to any faults, selfishness, self-centeredness. Equip us to combat critical spirits. Through Your spirit of humility, work in and through us daily to eradicate all pride so that we will put each other first in all things. Help us to surrender our will to Yours. Help us to lay on the altar anything that will get in Your way. Open our eyes to see those things and make them clear.

Transform our marriage and our family each and every day by the power of prayer and Your Word.  Make our home one that will be built solidly on the foundation of Jesus. May our house be a safe place in this world where we feel loved and protected. Help us to humbly submit to You and to resist Satan. 

Thank You, Father, that there is hope in You, hope for a rich, wonderful future for our marriage and this family. And whatever Satan throws at us, we trust You will empower us to battle him victoriously and what he intends for harm, You will give purpose and turn into good. Cover our family from this day forward with Your hedge of protection. Keep us in perfect peace because we love You and have our minds fixed on You. Thank You that You have begun a good work and will perfect it for Your glory. We ask all of these things in the powerful name of JESUS. 

For a pdf of another marriage prayer I have written, click here.

Before we close today, will you commit to doing something with me? Let’s take one intentional step together toward praying more in our marriage. If you’ve never prayed for your husband, take a step of faith and pray Scripture over him. My Encouragement for Today devotion gives you a great set of Scriptures to begin. Click here to find them. Lysa TerKeurst shares some great Scriptures as well. Click here to find hers.

And if you’ve never prayed with your husband, let’s commit to pray the prayer I shared above with our husbands…at least once. And if it goes well, pray it weekly. And if you are up for it, make this prayer your own. Add your favorite Scriptures and add words that reflect your dreams, your struggles, your heart for your marriage.

Please leave a comment and share your first step toward more prayer in your marriage…a Scripture you will pray or maybe you will tackle the entire prayer!  I will pray for each of you who leaves a comment today.

***The winners of Rob Teigen’s gift packs are below. Congratulations! Please e-mail me at deuteronomysix@aol.com with your full name and address so we can get these in the mail to you.

Carol who posted on 6/9 at 11:23 a.m.

Nancys 1128 who posted on 6/9 at 2:23 p.m.

Susan who posted on 6/10 at 11:59 a.m.

Blessings,

June 9, 2014

A Father’s Prayers for His Daughter…Meet Rob Teigen/Great Giveaway!

I’m excited to introduce to you an amazing dad who has a beautiful heart for prayer. Rob and his wife, Joanna, have co-authored the books I am sharing today. I couldn’t think of a better time to connect you with Rob than just before Father’s Day. He has some amazing resources to share with the “dad” in your life. It might be your son, your brother, your husband, your uncle or even a friend. We all know God calls us to pray for our kids, but knowing and doing are two different things. Praying is hard…even intimidating. How do we do it? What do we pray? That’s why I invited Rob here today.

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Please share this post and Rob and Joanna’s books with a “dad” in your life. And Rob is not only guest-posting but also giving away THREE gift packs. So leave a comment today for a chance to win one of Rob’s great gift packs. Each gift pack includes Rob’s two books and the Conversation Starters!

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Meet Rob Teigen…

I’m thankful to Wendy for asking me to stop by her blog in honor of Father’s Day. Wendy and I connected when she contributed a wonderful story to my wife’s and my upcoming book, A Mom’s Prayers for Her Son: Praying for Every Part of His Life.  Her story is an encouraging example of the power of prayer in her life as a mom. This book follows on the heels of our first book about prayer, A Dad’s Prayers for His Daughter: Praying for Every Part of Her Life. I appreciate the opportunity to share a little bit about these books and my family with you today.

My wife Joanna and I have been married for over 20 years and enjoy life together with our four children. Josh is in college, Emma is 16, Leah is 13, and Anna is 10. This will be an extra-special Father’s Day for me because we’re just weeks away from finalizing the adoption of our 3-year-old son, Mason. That will make number five and we couldn’t be more excited! I have to laugh a little, though, about our crazy life where we’re paying for Pull-ups and college tuition at the same time.

A perfect day for me is a trip to the pool or a bike ride with the kids, and grilling up a meal to share at the end. With our hectic schedule, any time we’re all gathered around the table at once is a special event. I also like to drag my family to as many Christian music concerts as my wife (and budget) will allow. Books are big at our house–I’m currently reading John Piper’s Don’t Waste Your Life, Paul E. Miller’s book A Loving Life, and Moment Makers by Carlos Whittaker. I picked up a copy of The Fault in Our Stars by John Green for my daughter Emma and couldn’t put it down (please don’t think any less of me!). My favorite Bible verse for this season of life is Proverbs 30:5 “Every word of God proves true; he is a shield to those who take refuge in him.”  Now that’s a promise!

Enough about me–I should let Wendy get on with the interview.  Thanks again, Wendy, and thank you to all who stopped here to read about how dads can bless their families through prayer.

What made you decide to write a book about prayer? 

I talk quite a bit about the tremendous value of spending quality time with our kids, passing on a spiritual heritage, and giving our children the security of a deeply committed marriage. But the longer I’m a father, the more I see that my most vital gift to my kids is releasing them to God through prayer.

When I lift my children up to God I remember they are His. I’m able to surrender my hopes, dreams, and fears to His control. He reminds me that I’m not just trying to raise “good kids,” but young men and women that have fully committed their lives to Him.  I want my kids to have hearts that are truly devoted to the Lord, and only He can change their hearts.

Also, I believe that prayer is where we seek wisdom to know how to handle life’s situations with our children.  When I have issues or challenges as a dad I tend to go to two extremes: I either jump in too fast to try to fix everything myself, or I become passive and hope the problem just goes away. In prayer I can ask God for help to know when and how to step in, or when to stand by quietly and watch God move in my child’s life in His own way and timing.

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Why did you feel it was important to focus on dads praying specifically for their daughters instead of sons? 

As I mentioned above I have two sons, and obviously praying for them is just as important as praying for my daughters.  However, I do feel that as guys we can have a harder time understanding the unique challenges our daughters face.  Some challenges are universal, like academic pressure, sickness, or loneliness, but girls have distinctive issues of their own. I know my daughters will face struggles with body image, gossip, confidence, and a biblical understanding of their value as women. I’ll need an extra measure of wisdom from God to know how to protect them physically, emotionally, and spiritually as their dad.

Why do you think it’s important for dads to pray for their girls?

My greatest desire as a parent is to see my daughters mature into the women God has designed them to be. Without God’s help, I might actually become a hindrance to what he wants to do in their lives. One of my favorite passages of the Bible is the foundation for my writing and strongerdads.com–Psalms 127 says, “Unless the Lord builds the house, those who build it labor in vain.  Unless the Lord watches over the city, the watchmen stay in wake in vain.  It is vain that you rise up early and go late to rest, eating the bread of anxious toil; for he gives his beloved sleep.”  How many of us are worrying and working hard to raise “good kids” of our own making.  Releasing our kids to God through prayer sets us free from fear and the pressure to be perfect fathers raising perfect daughters.

In prayer, I find peace and faith to trust in God’s power in the lives of my girls. I find guidance when I don’t understand their emotions or their needs. I find encouragement when things get tough—he promises to use every situation for our ultimate good. I find security by relying on him for their protection.

Dads, let’s start praying for our daughters’ needs before they’re in a full-blown crisis! I’m praying about my girls’ boyfriends and husbands now, even though those relationships are still a few years away on the horizon. I’m asking him to provide them with wisdom and self-control now, knowing that future jobs, grades, and driving habits will depend on it. I’m asking him to surround them with caring Christian friends today, so that they have a positive support system in place heading into their teen years. Praying for our daughters doesn’t guarantee everything in life will go perfectly, but it does build our faith and equip us for whatever comes.

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What would you say to encourage dads who feel like their prayers don’t change anything? 

We have to remember that God is the potter and we are the clay (Isaiah 64:8).  We can trust that God will use every situation in our children’s lives to mold them into the people he’s designed them to be. He can use pain and disappointment to teach patience and faith. He can use heartache to show himself as Comforter and Healer. It is through difficulty that our kids can discover how much he loves them.

We often want to use our prayers to change our child or our circumstances, rather than asking God to change us.  God blesses us with children for many reasons, but especially because they stretch our faith!  Nothing will bring us to our knees or make us aware of our total dependence on God like the needs of our children.  Go read the gospels—you’ll be as amazed as I was to see how many of those that came to Jesus were begging for help and healing for their children. Keep your eyes on God and the big picture of your life with your children. You will see his faithfulness and be amazed.

God loves you. God loves your child. He is mighty and able to do whatever we ask for them. He is good. Don’t quit praying—he hears you and he is with you every moment.

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What would you say to the dad (or mom) out there who is struggling with the choices his daughter is making?  How should we pray for them?

We need to remember that every one of God’s children was a prodigal at one point or another.  It was his kindness that led us to repentance (Romans 2:4).  Some of the best opportunities God gives to show his grace and unconditional love to our daughters are when they blow it.  Pray that God softens her heart to his truth.  Pray that she will see the painful consequences of sin and rebellion to God and turn back to him before she has to experience them for herself. Pray that she will come to the end of herself, see her need for the Lord, and run to him to experience the love, forgiveness, and mercy that he freely offers.

Pray that as her parent you can love her in spite of her choices. Ask for wisdom to know which limits and discipline will be the most effective in training your child. Ask for the strength to be silent when you want to criticize or lash out in frustration. Ask for the heart of Christ who loved us and gave himself up for us while we were still determined to go our own way.

What would you say to the dad whose daughter has made mistakes and she’s now paying for those mistakes?

That’s really hard!  None of us want to see our child experience painful effects of their wrong choices. It’s comforting to know that those consequences can do valuable work in teaching your daughter a better way. Put your arms around her and walk that road by her side. Remind her that God is not surprised by her sin. The first thing he did when Adam and Eve sinned in the garden was to seek them out and find them.  There were huge consequences for their disobedience but God made the clothing to cover them and made a way for their salvation.  He wants to do the same thing for your daughter. He is able to make her new—he wants to clothe her in his righteousness and draw her into a forever-relationship with him.

Pray that the painful consequences she’s experiencing will create a longing in her heart for the mercy of God. Ask him to open her eyes to see the freedom and joy that a life of obedience will bring. Ask him to humble her heart to admit her need for a Savior. And ask him for a tender heart as her dad that can love and forgive your daughter no matter what she’s done.

Any other thoughts on A Dad’s Prayers for His Daughter before we wrap this up?

I would encourage dads to just get started! Create a new habit of praying for your daughter every day. Get excited—you will see your faith grow stronger and real change happen in your family. You will grow in compassion and understanding of your child. You will create a rich legacy that can continue on in your daughter’s life as she prays for her own children someday. You’ll invite the power of God into the middle of your life as a father—prepare to be blown away by all that God will do!

Thanks, Rob, for sharing from your daddy’s heart today and for your generous gifts! If you would like to purchase any of Rob’s resources, click on the title below and it will take you directly to it. And visit Rob’s web site strongerdads.com.

A Dad’s Prayers for His Daughter 

88 Great Daddy-Daughter Dates

A Mom’s Prayer for Her Son (to be released 10/14)

I can’t wait for A Mom’s Prayers for Her Son to be released! Leave a comment today for Rob sharing how you incorporate prayer in your children’s lives. I will announce the three winners in my next post!

Blessings,